Wedding or Marriage?

Its strange how we have convinced ourselves to believe that marriage is but the act of bringing together two lives. I look around and see people talking about how grand and wonderful their wedding was or is going to be. Some even extend this courtesy to the honeymoon plans. I then find myself wondering how come not one single person talks about whats is left of this passionate, strong emotion once the happily ever after begins? 

True, I still hear newlyweds talk about their married life- their many romantic dinners, their getaway trips, precious gifts etc. But is that the whole truth of it? Why is no one talking about that feeling of desperate emptiness the minute your spouse turns at the doorstep to get to work? Why is no one mentioning that feeling of absolute longing to catch even a few hours of quality time with him, just lying on the couch and watching tv (between all the social engagements and responsibilities that come with the married life package!) I mean why do we unleash all emotions and let ourselves go for the few days that we dedicate to what is rightly the most important decision of our lives? But are happy to settle right back into our lives and carry on as if none of it matters anymore? 

Like somebody once said, marriage is hard and you have to work through it, and some days you have to work harder to get through. Its not just the disagreements and arguments. Its finding it in you to let go of your inhibitions and egos and understand the  many faces of you and your partner. Being that close to someone opens a whole new perspective to your own understanding of your personality. Pushing through all the uncertainties, doubts and insecurities may seem impossible at times. But knowing that a single hug can put al those to rest is but what its all about!

Marriage as I see it is not the dazzling wedding or the exotic trip. Its not the expensive gift. Its pushing through the many many up and down emotions even in a single day, just to want to lie your head next to him.